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murderkroger:

wanna write a big thing about the necessity for sober spaces in queer communities (esp queer youth communities) but i dont know where to start. what else is there to say besides “alcoholism is something that plagues our community, it’s insulting to market vodka to us at sponsored events and its insulting to assume that everyones okay being around alcohol when they want to feel proud”

adults in queer youth spaces have a RESPONSIBILITY to make sure we are safe. not with bullshit “sober until 9pm” rules. that’s straight up rude. putting drugs/alcohol in my safe spaces makes them no longer safe for me! stop doing it

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Anonymous asked:

(asterisk person) i understand that and i figured thats why you used the parentheses but youre not dmab and that asterisk is directly transmisogynistic so i hope the other nb people you talked to were dmab and also trans women because i have heard from dmab people that it is transmisogynistic and while i understand it erases nb people including dfab people its also another type of transmisogyny and idk where this is going but i think only dmab people should be using it in a reclaiming way?

deerhoof answered:

i mean i just looked around and i don’t see where it is DIRECTLY related to dmab people— i found one blogger out of 20 that i just looked up that said that. i’m not saying that to erase your concerns— these are all very valid, and i want to be educated and informed so i don’t erase anyone. the nb people i talked to, as i recall, were largely dmab (i can think of 10 usernames off the top of my head i talked to, and 8 are dmab). i don’t think that’s the point, though— this isn’t a proofing kind of game. this seems to be the main reference point that everyone goes back to: http://nataliereed84.tumblr.com/post/65412526336/so-lets-talk-about-the-fucking-asterisk

it seems it was UTILIZED at some point by transmisogynistic individuals in the trans community, but it wasn’t coined by them, and that’s a pretty key point. pitting nonbinary individuals against one another based on dmab/dfab in a community that is already vicious and condemning and incredibly problematic is not really a great thing to do and that’s what i saw that one blogger who said it was sourced from truscum doing— a dmab individual who was literally making the calls that they were more valid than dfab people, regardless of how they presented, which.. really rubs me the wrong way.. and is pretty transphobic in general.. kinda misogynistic maybe…? just kind bad

i donno. “queer” was used for homosexual men— does that mean only homosexual men can reclaim it? i dunno. i really don’t. dmab nonbinary people, please weigh in?

edit: i’m not upset and i feel like this tone is kind of.. argumentative.. and i don’t feel that way at all! i just feel sort of surprised i guess from what i’ve read, it just doesn’t seem to match up. i also think me using the star in brackets for people who reclaim it still remains relevant, as it’s there for dmab individuals as well, obviously.

murderkroger:

deerhoof:

murderkroger:

it was popularized by a cis dude who identifies as “metrosexual” i really don’t understand why it’s so difficult to omit it. also dmab nonbinary people can experience transmisogyny— dfab people cannot. there is a big difference. certainly you understand that.

trans sans-asterisk incorporates nonbinary representation. being transgender in any form simply means your gender identity does not match the gender you were assigned at birth.

with the asterisk i’ve seen it used to incorporate drag queens/kings and kinky people in general which is fucking offensive. being trans isn’t a kink. i don’t want to even risk that i might be associated with people who think that way.

the debate here isn’t omitting it but rather letting people reclaim it? as i said, i’ve spoken to a number of dmab (and dfab) individuals who want to reclaim it…?

also— i’m just being straight up— i know hundreds of people, myself included, who don’t feel like “transgender” is the right word— straightup

and people using trans(insert here) isn’t like.. new.. like dragqueens have used transgendered for a long time. i’ve seen it dozens if not hundreds of times

i’m definitely not debating here, i’m just interested in you expanding on the idea of reclaiming because you are talking about omitting which we already do

i think it’s not for you and i to reclaim, i think reclaiming it is only for people who experience transmisogyny. 

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