i mean i just looked around and i don’t see where it is DIRECTLY related to dmab people— i found one blogger out of 20 that i just looked up that said that. i’m not saying that to erase your concerns— these are all very valid, and i want to be educated and informed so i don’t erase anyone. the nb people i talked to, as i recall, were largely dmab (i can think of 10 usernames off the top of my head i talked to, and 8 are dmab). i don’t think that’s the point, though— this isn’t a proofing kind of game. this seems to be the main reference point that everyone goes back to: http://nataliereed84.tumblr.com/post/65412526336/so-lets-talk-about-the-fucking-asterisk
it seems it was UTILIZED at some point by transmisogynistic individuals in the trans community, but it wasn’t coined by them, and that’s a pretty key point. pitting nonbinary individuals against one another based on dmab/dfab in a community that is already vicious and condemning and incredibly problematic is not really a great thing to do and that’s what i saw that one blogger who said it was sourced from truscum doing— a dmab individual who was literally making the calls that they were more valid than dfab people, regardless of how they presented, which.. really rubs me the wrong way.. and is pretty transphobic in general.. kinda misogynistic maybe…? just kind bad
i donno. “queer” was used for homosexual men— does that mean only homosexual men can reclaim it? i dunno. i really don’t. dmab nonbinary people, please weigh in?
edit: i’m not upset and i feel like this tone is kind of.. argumentative.. and i don’t feel that way at all! i just feel sort of surprised i guess from what i’ve read, it just doesn’t seem to match up. i also think me using the star in brackets for people who reclaim it still remains relevant, as it’s there for dmab individuals as well, obviously.